Does this sound familiar?
couples can also fall into compromise ruts, where each gives up what they really want to do in order to find something they can both agree upon. For example, in choosing movies, he might love action-adventure, she might love drama, and they might routinely compromise on comedies. After awhile, this might get old! (True story- happened to me!)
the purpose of this date is to give a gift and please Partner #2 one hundred percent. This doesn’t have to cost anything, and doesn’t even require going anywhere, as long as the time and activities are creatively focused on what would please Partner #2.
the purpose of this date is For Partner #1 to please themselves 100%, to have romance exactly the way they want, sharing the experience with Partner #2 in the way they wish, but not worrying about Partner #2s experience at all.
To work, this requires planning and coordination. I suggest couples plan their DATES and one-way types on a calendar a year in advance. This may sacrifice the spontaneity that some prefer but often cant sustain, For intentionality that can continue to create romantic closeness and excitement For decades to come.
I have found that trying to reach agreement on everything can hinder creativity and dilute the possibilities. Using these One-Way DATES allows For each Partner to freely and creatively choose activities that would truly please themselves or their Partner, without eliminating exciting choices trying to please both.
ONE-WAY DECISION MAKING
Lets say that Partner #1 really wants to go to the opera, but Partner #2 hates the opera. Partner #1 really wants to go, but doesnt want to go alone or with someone else, they want to go with their Partner!