the concept of value in a relationship is the same like the concept of value in the commercial world with the big difference that in the case of an emotional and sexual relationship with a woman it is connected with the deeper instincts of evolution and replicating.
Instead a very ugly, short and fat guy may have For her – and surely has – a very important evolutionary and replicating value if he has a lot of money if she is planning to make a family and have children.
it is also a very flucate concept: if you are in a modern environment your Ferrari surely has a very important value in her eyes For the choice of a mate but it is totally worthless For her if you are in a desert without water and what she values then is getting a chance to satisfy thirsty.
Then when they gets back to work after having been 3-4 years at home taking care of the children while he pays the bills they may – either consciously or unconsciously – try to feel that their hubby has no value anymore in spite of all his money and start to feel attraction For the bad boy.
This is very difficult because a female active tendency to betaise you is always a direct attempt to lower your value. the purpose of her betaising attempts is to lower your value in a relationship to access your resources and make sure you will be loyal to her along the pregnancy and the first years of the child bearing.
So to calibrate value in a relationship with a woman you need to counter act her active betaising attempt. at the same time you need to be careful of Not putting her \”too much\” down otherwise you will cause big problems to her self-esteem.
you shout to her and maybe become violent: that is a miscalibration. Whatever the outcome is you will put her too much down and the relationship will get bad. Also you will surely incur into legal problems and maybe get jailed.
Instead a proper way of reacting to it is to wait a week and show her how you can flirt with another woman in front of her eyes or even use rich descriptions to simply describe verbally – without even relly flirting – a situation where you are being liked a lot by other women.
As a man you are – especially if she is pregnant and having little children – in a position of power. So you have to use that power but Not \”too much\” otherwise you are putting her down and badly miscalibrating.
Telling her straight to her face that she is a bitch and a prostitute in her Nature will only show weakness and put her too much down. women do these things out of instinct (well some of them in purpose but that is a smaller group).
Instead telling her: \”I am sure that one day you will have a lot of money on your bank account\” gives her an indirect message of how silly she is being with her manipulation attempt and puts her in her place without putting her too much down.
For example :
Then after a week :
Franco:” By the way: I had a lot of work today. I just hired a couple of new secretaries; one Maria is 18 and just started her career. She looks and acts gorgeous but it will be a hell of a job to train her..